If you make a mistake and get all tangled up, you just tango on.

No mistakes in the tango, not like life. Simple, that’s what makes tango so great. You make a mistake… get all tangled up… just tango on. —Al Pacino as “Lt. Colonel Frank Slade,” Scent of a Woman Original short text written by Bernie the Monkey My favorite scene in the movie "Scent of a Woman" occurs when a blind man (played by Al Pacino) reassures a beautiful young woman that she has nothing to worry about. He has just invited her to dance the tango with him and she is understandibly nervous at the prospect. Firstly because he is blind and secondly because she has never danced the tango before. That is the message I want to send out to you, loyal reader, today. No mistake is too big to tackle. It takes two to dance. I remember dancing with my daughters in the kitchen when they were small. Sometimes we danced until we almost spun out of control. What joy it was. I may be older now and my arms and shoulders may not be strong enough to carry both my daughters anymore. But I will try, if you will try. That is my promise to you. Whenever you are ready to dance the tango with me, just reach out to me. With your Dad, if you make a mistake and get all tangled up, you just tango on. That is what it means to dance with an emotionally-available parent. I once knew a woman who nicknamed me Mr. Nothing is Impossible. That is because, at that time, in her eyes nothing was impossible for me. Well the good news is that "nothing is impossible". If you forgive yourself, put your faith in God, yourself and the other person (eg. B. the M.), trust in the amazing grace of your relationship with the other person (even if it is has lost much of the luster it had when you were younger), you will be amazed. Why suffer when you can love and be loved. The other person has not changed for the worst. He or she is essentially the same emotionally-available person he or she was when you were a child. So consider the following: What is the worst that could happen if you take a leap of faith and reach out to that long-lost person in your life even if it has been years since you last saw him or her. The worst that can happen is that you will be hurt and disappointed. But you are already hurt and disappointed so, as Craig encourages in "Dr. Childress Speaks With the Child", consider reaching out to that person with whom you feel estranged at the moment. Do yourself a favor. Allow the love that is buried in you and the love that awaits you in him to burst out. DO THAT and you will see life begin to get better for you in so many aspects of your life! Love. It is in you (and him) to give. So take a deep breath, reach out, and take a chance. I believe that you will not be disappointed. I have total confidence in you, love for you, and only positive thoughts about you. That is my promise. I will wait forever but I hope and pray that you will take the plunge sooner rather than later since to paraphrase Dr. Childress: "There is too much suffering and not enough love in the world. So let's reduce the amount of suffering and increase the amount of love". ------------ Some of the other dialogue from the movie follows below... Al Pacino: Excuse me senorita.. do you mind if we join you? I feel you are being neglected here Donna: Well i am expecting somebody Al Pacino: Instantly? Donna: No. But any minute now. Al Pacino: Some people live a lifetime in a minute. What are you doing NOW? Donna: I am waiting for him Al pacino: Do you mind if WE waited with YOU? Just to keep the womanisers away from you. Donna: Sure. [Al knew her face cleanser, by scent] Donna: Ah, that's amazing. Al Pacino: Well, I'm in the amazing business. Al Pacino: No mistakes in tango. Not like life. Simple.. thats what makes tango so great. Its simple..If you make a mistake you get tangled up.. just tango on The conversation is followed by one of the best scenes in the movie.. the tango scene. Al Pacino: I'll blow your fuckin head off Chris: Then do it. you wanna do it, do it.. Lets go. Al Pacino: Get outta here. Chris: You are fked up alright.. So what?? Everybody does it. Get on with your life. Al Pacino: What life? I got no life.. I'm in the dark here.. Do you understand?? I am in the dark Chris: You wanna give up?? Give up.. I am giving up too. We r both through.. Lets fkin do it.. Pull the trigger you blind motherfucker.. Al Pacino: You dont wanna die Chris: Neither do you. Al Pacino: Give me one reason not to Chris: I'll give ya 2. You dance a tango and drive a ferrari better than anyone I have ever seen Al Pacino: You have never seen anyone do either, have ya? Chris: You know when we get back to the hampshire, I dunno why you cant find someone. You are good-lookin guy, you are fun to be with, a great travel companion, sensitive, compassionate.. Al Pacino: Charlie?? ... are you fucking with me?? Chris: (smiles) yes --------------------------------------------------------------------------------